We are living in unprecedented times. Our earth is in peril, our rights are threatened, and our government seems indifferent to the fundamental freedoms that our country was built upon. Don’t lose your femininity to the patriarchy as you fight for what you believe in.
One of the things I have noticed is that when I forget my feminine practices I am more easily pulled off my center. It’s essential to stay heart-connected during times of political upheaval. We can get so caught up in fighting the good fight that we forget to love. We forget to pause and find the beauty in the moment, the beauty before us.
Here are some tips to revive your Goddess-ness.
Nourish yourself. A goddess is in sync with the natural rhythms of nature. She knows all children are her children and that the earth, air, and water are sacred. She fiercely protects the environment and is the voice of the disenfranchised. She also is the queen of self-care. She rises early and hydrates often. Start your day with a glass of lemon water and make a point of getting twenty minutes of exercise every day. And love your lady lumps!
Don’t spread yourself too thin. A goddess picks her battles. She understands that any action has an equal and opposite reaction and that forces come in pairs. She chooses causes she can get behind knowing that other goddesses will be doing the same. Some write letters, some knit pink hats.
Practice conscious listening. A goddess controls her tongue and knows when to hold it. Concentrate on listening to understand the position of those who disagree with you, rather than mentally preparing for your next rebuttal. Take a full breath before you respond. Conscious listening takes an open heart, a focused mind and lots of practice.
Reclaiming intimacy with those you love. A goddess makes her relationships a priority. She says I love you with intention. She let the words flow through her. She offers touch. She knows she is not her emotions, but allows her body to fill with them. She never forgets that the three keys to being a goddess are empathy, compassion, and vulnerability.
Have a gratitude practice. A goddess shines. Her energy is palpable on even the dreariest of days because she practices gratitude. She is grateful for her family, her community, her critters and the simple pleasures in life. She bows and gives thanks.
Have a practice to process negative emotions. A goddess is always evolving. She is the embodiment of dignity and joy because she knows how to re-channel her anger and pain. Identify the emotion. Turn toward the unpleasant feeling. Take a breath and accept what is present. All emotions are impermanent. Dispel or dissolve the negativity with ecstatic movement, a smiling meditation or the six healing sounds. Or do like my friend and smash plates in the backyard. Note: Picking them up is also part of the practice.
Be a Wisdom Seeker. Goddesses learn from other goddesses. Have teachers to turn to when you feel overwhelmed. Don’t separate or isolate, ask for support when you need it. One of my teachers, Clarissa Pinkola Estes said, “Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach.”
Nourish your body and return to the den often to replenish your feminine spirit. Find time to explore pleasure and celebrate love. Spend time with children and elders, pet puppies, smell flowers and dance. Set healthy boundaries. Respect your needs. Feel your feelings. Speak your truth. Connect to Mother Nature. Smile and make love. Howl at the moon and make room for your wildness. Be fueled by love, not fear. Stay grateful and grounded. All of these feed your goddess power and enable you to actualize the enormous potential that resides within you.