Sacred Slut: Sex and the Single Writer

Dear Sacred,

 

I met you at a writing event this year and find your blog intriguing to say the least. This is my question: How does a writer ensconced in a body of work find time for sex? I’m sure it would be easier if I had an established partner but, tis not the case. I’m a middle-age divorcee.

 

Sincerely,

Rankled Up In Words

 

Dear Rankled,

 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news. So don’t be a hater and shoot the messenger. The blunt answer is, you don’t. Stay in the story. All you’re allowed to do right now is write. Sex is a terrible distraction. If you’re lucky, Mr. or Ms. Match-Made-In-Heaven will drop in your lap, but often finding a partner, and maintaining a relationship, is time consuming. Get a dildo or a flesh light and acquaint yourself with porn hub instead.

 

Unfortunately, it’s still illegal to procure sexual services or I’d point you in that direction. There are some lovely service providers out there but I gather you’re looking for ongoing intimacy, an authentic connection and honest-to-goodness true love.

 

This must be your motto:  Make Art Your Love.

 

Here are some suggestions. Don’t let yourself go, self-care needs to remain a priority. The body, mind and spirit work together. While hanging out waiting for that one true sentence, let your privates know you still love them and do a set of Kegels, simple clench and release exercises that strengthen the pelvic floor.

 

Watch your posture at the computer. Pretend the muse only sprinkles creativity on your head when you’re not slouching. I’m a firm believer the body needs a combination of cardio, weight training and stretching. Take breaks and stretch and get regular bodywork. Touch is the language of the body and essential for optimal wellbeing. Nourish your spirit in nature, with art, and time spent with family and friends.

 

Reward yourself when you’ve completed your first draft. Take a couple of hours to compose a slick personal ad or online dating profile. A good writer will have contenders beating down their door. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, seek someone who will be supportive of your craft.

 

Writers often fare better with someone holding their hand. Henry Miller had five spouses, Hemingway, four. Danielle Steel, five.

 

How many books have you read that are dedicated to the husband or wife? Having a mate who can offer you sound critique or shoulder some of the burden in a number of different ways is a true gift. Stephen King has an extraordinary collaborative relationship with his wife, Tabitha. Married 44 years!

 

Writing is a solitary path but it doesn’t have to be a lonely one. Nothing is more valuable than a beloved at your side. Hang in there, keep the faith and never give up.

 

Keep it slutty.  Make it Sacred.

 
 
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  • Thomas

    Hi, I wanted to ask a question that was a little embarrassing but didn’t know where to ask. Is there a email I Can ask

    Thanks

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